Saturday 24 October 2015

Clutter usually isn't about clutter.

Hi everyone. I think like most issues in ones life the symptom is but a reflection that something else is going on.  Clutter is not always about the clutter.
I have worked with folks who have so much clutter they cannot see their floors, tops of tables nor the back of the closet.  The clutter is just the result of something else at play; depression, shopaholic, ADHD, grief and many others. The main thing I hear from folks is; I don't know how it got this way and I do not know where to start. I like to start at why someone has so much stuff? Are they shopping as an escape, do they forget what they have at home when out shopping, do they think if they have a lot of things they will feel better? Each person has their own reasons and it is up to a professional organizer to find out the whys.  Once we know why we can address this issues.

Folks that have ADHD will need to make a commitment to changing how they do things; ie. use a timer when cleaning up and/or have someone with them when cleaning so when they get side tracked they can be reminded where they were working and why. Someone with depression needs to take on 20 minutes at a time and try their best each day. You will be surprised how much can get one in 20 minutes. If someone is grieving and wants to hold on to all their loved ones belongings yet have no space for them all we can work on how we can honour this person; make a picture collage, create a shadow box of treasured items that hold greater meaning and display it.











People tend to attach emotions and memories to items. I am here to say your memories will always be with you about your loved one, keeping their items in boxes stored in your attic/basement or garage is not honouring them. Without us realizing it, having boxes of items in our house causes stress; when will I get through those boxes and display some items, those boxes will be left for family to go through when I have passed I feel bad about this, I am not honouring my love one with boxes stored away I am a bad person etc.  These ideas are floating in our minds whether we are aware of them or not.
If you can relate to what has been written above, make a change today! It does not have to be all or nothing, just one small change: go through one box, de-clutter for 20 minutes a day, have someone you trust help you go through items you find it hard to part with, call a professional organizer to support you with your changes.

It is ok to have things, but when your things take over your life and space there is a problem. The clutter is a symptom not the real issue at hand.



6 comments:

  1. Great post! You're so right that clutter is often the tip of the iceberg to bigger problems. Good suggestions, Stephanie!

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    1. Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting :)

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  2. I LOVE that shadow box "family tree" as a way of remembering relatives - much nicer than a box full of old photos!

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    1. I think shadow boxes are so much fun and a space to be creative and a place to honour loved ones!! Thanks for the comment.

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  3. Yep. Physical clutter and mental clutter usually go hand in hand, and both can be caused by things we haven't even stopped to think about, much less figure out solutions to. Good suggestions, Stephanie! Also, I, too, love the family tree shadow box!

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  4. Thank you Hazel for stopping by and commenting :)

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